Today, I am taking time to sit down, and reflect on the last week since my husband has returned home from his work trip. He was gone for four weeks. In some ways, it seemed like much longer, yet in others, it’s like he never left.
We have been quite busy since his return, one of the primary reasons being that our stuff has arrived. Bring out the champagne, put up the banners!!! This is a moment to celebrate!!!
You see, when one makes a move such as New England to Hawaii, one has many choices to make. Sell, or not sell? Pack, or give away? Does one attempt to pack, pallet, move, and ship on one’s own, or hire a moving company to take care of everything start to finish?
We chose the latter, which seemed to be the easiest, yet definitely the most expensive option.
We chose a company called Hawaii Moving and Storage. Google them. Because as I share this story you’re going to wonder if we did. I swear, they had some glowing reviews. And a fine rating with BBB.
We made a huge mistake, but how could we have known?
Google Hawaii Moving and Storage, then CROSS THEM OFF YOUR LIST!!
When we got our household items last week there was a lot of missing items. Among them were a large sofa chair, 13-foot-long truck racks, a huge and expensive table saw, a toddler bed mattress, and a brand new car seat. Of the things we did receive, about half of it was damaged. I’m not kidding. Furniture that had been in pristine condition upon loading was completely scuffed up, dented, chipped, stained, or just plain broken.
We found ourselves torn between incredible relief that all of our stuff had arrived, and utter disappointment that we were missing so many things and had so much damage.
The company claims to have no idea where the missing items are, and no explanation of how it even happened. They want to take no responsibility for any of the damaged property.
We paid them over 10,000 bucks to get our stuff here.
I’ll let that sink in for a second.
Here’s the reality. There is nothing we can do. It seems that this outcome was/is completely out of our control. They gave us what appears to be a book to fill out and send to their insurance company, which we will do, but if we get anything approved from them it will be worth a certain amount of monetary value per square foot of lost or damaged stuff. Which means we’ll be lucky to get half compensated.
Here are the takeaways.
We should have heeded the advice that we read online of many people that have moved to Hawaii. SELL OR GIVEAWAY YOUR HOUSEHOLD ITEMS. I sincerely hope that at least one person out there planning to move to Hawaii reads this. IT IS NOT WORTH THE RISK!! Unfortunately, we have talked to so many people, and it is not completely out of the ordinary that this happened to us. If we could go back in time, we would agree that that 10,000 bucks could have given us a damn good start at new items here in Hawaii, as opposed to missing and broken items that we were determined to bring.
Takeaway two: I hadn’t seen our stuff for over 5 months. During the time we’ve been living here, waiting on our belongings, we had to make some purchases obviously to get by. We rented a couch from Rent-A-Center. We were given a few things. My husband even built the kids some furniture!
We did the bare minimum, yet what made sense for the stage of life we are in. We had what we needed, but not nearly half of what we had been accustomed to back home in NH. Part of moving to Hawaii is understanding that in some respects, the way of life really is simpler. One respect in regards to stuff.
When you live on an island where shipping anything from 2000-6000 miles away is expensive and takes a long time (amazon prime even takes weeks), there isn’t a Walmart, Bed, Bath, and Beyond, or Jordan’s furniture within reach, you learn that you can get by with only three pots and pans, or one set of bed sheets, and you realize how unimportant the superfluous is. When our boxes arrived, I was very excited; it was like Christmas! But I also sort of got stressed out realizing how much stuff we had. Where would I put it? What were we going to do with it all?! (I have already given away three full boxes).
On that note, take away three, it’s just stuff. I really am learning what it means not to hold on so tightly to our earthly possessions. Yes, it’s true, that the chair that was not returned to us had been a splurge, and my favourite chair, and it’s infuriating to think that this company just let it “disappear”. But here’s a good reminder: these things are just things. My joy, my hope, should not be placed in a chair. Can I be content with out it?
Can I be content, knowing that the importance of following the still small voice within is more pertinent and eternal than a comfortable chair?
Can I set the example to those around me, that my attitude, my determination, my perseverance, is not founded on my things?
Can I laugh fearlessly at the future knowing that the five of us are healthy, well-fed, and living on an island that many would call Paradise?
There’s a passage from the bible that I have been reminding myself of through this experience. Ephesians 4. Its good stuff. But specifically, this highlighted verse.
To me, in this situation, it is saying, stuff happens. That is life here on Earth. But don’t let your joy be stolen. Don’t let your hope be dictated by such volatile occurrences. Especially those that are out of our control. Our minds, and our hearts are ours to protect and guide. We should allow nothing, and no one to have so much power in our lives to detract from the power within ourselves.
It’s just stuff, right.